People are different.
We are born with different natures. Nature means the way we are naturally “bent” or inclined. We each have our own set of natural strengths and weaknesses. The book of Proverbs talks about training a child in the way he or she should go. The words “way he should go” there, literally translates into the direction in which a person is “bent” or “inclined.” King Solomon, all those years ago, understood that each of us has a natural, God-given, inclination and that we should train each child according to his or her own unique inclination, help him or her develop strengths and overcome weaknesses, each of which is different in every person. There is not a one size fits all mold for human beings.
So, we could say that the word “train” refers to nurture. Solomon tells us to nurture each child according to his or her own specific nature.
Nurture means our environments, our relationships, our belief systems and our experiences. Two people with the same nature may be very different because their nurture is so varied. So, teachings we receive, the environment, relationships, religious beliefs, cultural beliefs and life experiences will affect the person we become. We could say that our nature is influenced by our nurture.
Problems come when we expect everyone else to live by our own “natural” value systems. In other words, if I naturally value structure and another person values unhindered exploration, we may have issues, unless we come to understand that and approach each other with the other person’s values in mind. This is where depth psychology comes into play. You may not EVER understand the letters Jung used and what they signified, but anyone who can think can, if they try, understand that other people see the world differently and value different aspects of human nature.
We each have one of 16 sets of cognitive “preferences” or ways of thinking. Preferences means that we subconsciously gravitate toward in much the same way that each of us gravitates toward left-handedness or right-handedness.
****IF WE UNDERSTAND THE NATURE OF A PERSON THEN THE TASK OF GETTING ALONG WITH THAT PERSON IS ALREADY 50% ACHIEVED. THEN ALL WE HAVE TO IS WORK ON THE NURTURE OF THAT PERSON. When we understand the nature of a person, we are responsible to hold them to THEIR value system and not our own.
So having said that, here is a two word description of the basic nature of each of the sixteen types. (In depth psychology terms, it’s the dominant or hero function). This is what each of these types value and excel at.
ESTJ & ENTJ–thinking extraverted—ORDER & STRUCTURE
ISTJ & ISFJ–sensing introverted–SECURITY & STABILITY
ESFJ & ENFJ–extravert feeling–SOCIETY & MORALITY
ESTP & ESFP–sensing extraverted–EXPERIENCE & PIONEERING
ISTP & INTP–thinking introverted–LOGIC & PRECISION
INFP & ISFP–feeling introverted–INDIVIDUALITY & PERSONAL FREEDOM
ENTP & ENFP–iNtuition extraverted–EXPLORATION & TRANSFORMATION
INTJ & INFJ–iNtuition introverted–AUTONOMY & DISCOVERY
1 Person of each type who left a mark on this world:
- ESTJ–Billy Graham
- ENTJ–Carl Sagan
- ISTJ–Alexander Campbell (founder of Bethany College and the Church of Christ)
- ISFJ–Rosa Parks
- ESFJ–Harry Truman
- ENFJ–Martin Luther King Jr.
- ESTP–Winston Churchill
- ESFP–Hugh Hefner
- ISTP–Bruce Lee
- ENTP–Benjamin Franklin
- ENFP–Anne Frank
- INFP–Edgar Allen Poe
- ISFP–Jimmi Hendrix
- INTJ–C.S. Lewis
- INFJ–Thomas Jefferson