Train Us in the Ways We Should Go

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People are different.

We are born with different natures. Nature means the way we are naturally “bent” or inclined. We each have our own set of natural strengths and weaknesses. The book of Proverbs talks about training a child in the way he or she should go. The words “way he should go” there, literally translates into the direction in which a person is “bent” or “inclined.” King Solomon, all those years ago, understood that each of us has a natural, God-given, inclination and that we should train each child according to his or her own unique inclination, help him or her develop strengths and overcome weaknesses, each of which is different in every person. There is not a one size fits all mold for human beings.

So, we could say that the word “train” refers to nurture. Solomon tells us to nurture each child according to his or her own specific nature.

Nurture means our environments, our relationships, our belief systems and our experiences. Two people with the same nature may be very different because their nurture is so varied. So, teachings we receive, the environment, relationships, religious beliefs, cultural beliefs and life experiences will affect the person we become. We could say that our nature is influenced by our nurture.

Problems come when we expect everyone else to live by our own “natural” value systems. In other words, if I naturally value structure and another person values unhindered exploration, we may have issues, unless we come to understand that and approach each other with the other person’s values in mind.  This is where depth psychology comes into play. You may not EVER understand the letters Jung used and what they signified, but anyone who can think can, if they try, understand that other people see the world differently and value different aspects of human nature.

We each have one of 16 sets of cognitive “preferences” or ways of thinking. Preferences means that we subconsciously gravitate toward in much the same way that each of us gravitates toward left-handedness or right-handedness.

****IF WE UNDERSTAND THE NATURE OF A PERSON THEN THE TASK OF GETTING ALONG WITH THAT PERSON IS ALREADY 50% ACHIEVED. THEN ALL WE HAVE TO IS WORK ON THE NURTURE OF THAT PERSON.  When we understand the nature of a person, we are responsible to hold them to THEIR value system and not our own.

So having said that, here is a two word description of the basic nature of each of the sixteen types. (In depth psychology terms, it’s the dominant or hero function). This is what each of these types value and excel at.

ESTJ & ENTJ–thinking extraverted—ORDER & STRUCTURE

ISTJ & ISFJ–sensing introverted–SECURITY & STABILITY

ESFJ & ENFJ–extravert feeling–SOCIETY & MORALITY


ISTP & INTP–thinking introverted–LOGIC & PRECISION



INTJ & INFJ–iNtuition introverted–AUTONOMY & DISCOVERY


1 Person of each type who left a mark on this world:

  1. ESTJ–Billy Graham
  2. ENTJ–Carl Sagan
  3. ISTJ–Alexander Campbell (founder of Bethany College and the Church of Christ)
  4. ISFJ–Rosa Parks
  5. ESFJ–Harry Truman
  6. ENFJ–Martin Luther King Jr.
  7. ESTP–Winston Churchill
  8. ESFP–Hugh Hefner
  9. ISTP–Bruce Lee
  10. INTP–Einstein
  11. ENTP–Benjamin Franklin
  12. ENFP–Anne Frank
  13. INFP–Edgar Allen Poe
  14. ISFP–Jimmi Hendrix
  15. INTJ–C.S. Lewis
  16. INFJ–Thomas Jefferson

Author: Darlene Franklin-Campbell

Poet, novelist, artist

7 thoughts on “Train Us in the Ways We Should Go”

  1. MBTI is a nuts and bolts system used for breaking down personality traits, and understanding how these types interact with each other and the (slightly) different environments in which we find ourselves. Their personality tests were ground breaking in the early days, and became industry standards for careers assessment programs. It’s still useful. But it needs good facilitators to get the best from it. After being told what personality type you are, if you’re not gifted with excellent facilitation and follow up, most people lose interest once they’ve joked about their type for a while. 16 types is an arbitrary number. You can work with more, or less depending on your needs and predilections. But these types can so easily become ‘badges of office’. The system lacks cohesion. It’s like studying parts of the human body without knowing why (not how) they work together. I don’t mean mechanically. I specifically mean holistically. The system, like many others from the period in which it was first invented, lacks empathy and ‘soul’. We don’t just need to be a specific ‘type’ to work well with another type. We need empathy, kindness, patience and grace. And we need to discover how we fit into the oneness, without assuming possession, without seizing control, and without the cumbersome attachment to ego. MBTI is akin to trying to understand love using a stethoscope and thermometer. You will understand a few of the symptoms, but not the unique mix of body and spirit. All constructed psychological assessment tools are the same. Transactional Analysis is a similar tool. It categorizes human behaviors and allows personality breakdown and understanding. But it too fails the most important test. That of cracking open the almost impenetrable core of human fear and dishonesty. We become defensive merely by being born into the physical world. More so as society and culture build walls around us and facades to hide our insecurities. Transcendence can only occur when we have divested ourselves of fear. No psychology programs can facilitate this.

    1. Thank you, Michael. Your insight and input are highly valuable to me. I sincerely appreciate your thoughts and words.

      I have no intentions of promoting a psychology program, but I do seek to promote understanding and spiritual sight. I only use MBTI in the tag line to help people find my blog, because it is familiar and people seek it out. I believe in the things I say, which aren’t so different than what you are saying. My method of expression is, however, different.

      And of course we don’t need to be a specific type to work well with others. We simply need to understand that not everyone holds the same values that we do and we need to respect those values and in children, realize that each child comes into this world with his or her own natural set of gifts and that we can help that child become a greater version of himself or herself by recognizing those gifts instead of criticizing them because they are different than our own. That’s what I’m promoting, seeing the beauty in our differences and cultivating greatness in each other.

      My hope is to go beyond the 16 types and to use that as a launching pad to help people see that we each see the world through our own lens, and that no one’s lens is better than anyone else’s. I simply want people to seek to understand and help one another. I’m well versed in the origin of MBTI and well aware of its limitations. I want to facilitate understanding and the desire to swim deeper, to inspire my readers to reach into their souls in order to see and to understand that we all have natural tendencies.

      So, no, I’m not promoting the MBTI. I’m promoting human understanding and spiritual growth, or at least those are my intentions.

      1. Appreciated both comments . . . and had memories stirred.
        Back in the 80’s when our Emory/Athens Regional clinical training supervisor Dr. James Stapleford took us through the MBTI process I was glad for his Iowa country spin gleaned in his days at the state psych facility there. He invited us to consider the fluctuations and potentials in type variance. And how the test itself can be, in the hands of a sound facilitator as Michael mentions, a way of stimulating growth in areas we tend not to notice. He was very adamant that this is no set-in-concrete test result. I always laugh thinking about his illustrations of the various types on the continuums . . . e.g., “If you’re extreme Sensate you can tell how many light bulbs were in the ceiling once you leave the room. I loved that one because I need more of that given my flow nature set in the more “intuitive” range. Meanwhile, in my work setting, other tests were being given, and psychotropics administered. We did good work – but I wasn’t terribly surprised to see the once great and largest private psychiatric and substance abuse system run into the ground by the good ol boys in Macon. Suffice it to say I was a member of the staff at Charter Winds in Athens, GA. It no longer exists even in the memory of most. Only one other hospital made it through the changes in Georgia – because it was big enough to become independent, once the system bankrupted. I still have one letter from an administrator thanking me for creating and running the men’s track program and writing the handbook for the program. Nice to remember one bright spot in it all.

        So – I didn’t say anything, Darlene – but I kinda liked your sensual artwork . . . (blushing)! Guess you must have decided to go in a different direction. But don’t forget, it is all grist for the mill πŸ™‚

        you know, come to think of it — I bet I know that Michael Ashura above, too! Good to see you.

        –Doug — more fearful than ever on some days, bold, or simply blase, on others . . .

      2. Doug, I LOVED reading these memories. Thank you so much for sharing and even though you said you didn’t say anything, you spoke to me via my “intuitive” range. haha. I am glad you like my artwork and as you say, it is all grist for the mill. And you DO know Michael Ashura. I am so happy you both came to visit my post. I feel kind of like the band is getting back together again. I do miss Dorothy and Charlotte.

  2. I don’t think you realize your innate ability to connect without ‘props’, Darlene. This is why I was kinda surprised to see a brick (mbti)​ in your artist’s palette. Ultimately though, you’ll know.

    Hi Doug. Good to hear you’re well 😁

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