Meet Janet, an ENFP

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Ne–scans the horizon, looking for possible pathways. It toys with ideas, with relationships and every piece of data, experience or external stimuli leads to making inferences, drawing analogies, coming up with metaphors, motives and meanings. Ne is adept at what if scenarios and mirrors others. It tends entertain multiple meanings and ideas at once. 
Fi–introverted feeling in the parent position means that the ENFP will be responsible for his/her own values and will have the ability to place themselves in the shoes of another person and see from another person’s viewpoint. It may also cause the ENFP to behave selfishly if in a foul mood.
Te–extraverted thinking in the child position means that the ENFP has a pure ability to be organized when they need to be and will give them a childlike love for gadgets, technology, data, etc. Make no mistake, ENFPs and ESFPs definitely have the ability to get organized, even if it doesn’t look like traditional organization to Is-Te types such as ESTJs or ISTJs. 
Si–introverted sensing in the aspirational position means that ENFPs may tend toward moments of nostalgia or when stressed find relief in something familiar. Even though they love change and they love the new, they do take solace in the familiar on occasion. Si acts as a release valve or a balancing act for Ne. 

Janet is a perky, bouncy and seemingly carefree person, but she is also responsible and proves it everyday. She runs her own company.

When Janet walks into a room, her employees can immediately tell what mood she is in. They can tell by the way she carries herself. When she has a new piece of technology, she walks with a pep in her step that makes her appear to walk on air. When she has an unsatisfied customer or trouble at home, she walks with anger in her steps. Workers know when they can and can’t approach her with requests, all by the way she walks. Though they would never say it to her face, they all describe Janet as “moody” and say that she can both be kind and sympathetic and yet, at times, childishly stubborn and selfish. Some workers have quit because they say that Janet is insincere and acts like she is on “their side” then turns around and does something that they feel stabs them in the back.

For example, three years ago, there was an opening in the company and Janet called a board meeting. The board held interviews and voted to hire a girl name Stacey, who was highly qualified but had been struggling through financial difficulties due to the recent death of her husband and the closing of the factory where she had worked.

Janet called Stacey and cheefully told her that she had the job.  Stacey and her two kids had a party to celebrate her getting a good job and their being able to get off food stamps. She then preceded to move her belongings into her office and was all set for her first day of work.

Meanwhile, Janet was approached by a representative from a clique of workers. The representative told Janet that the other workers (meaning her little group) didn’t like Stacey and didn’t think she was a “company kind of woman.” So, Janet, in an attempt to keep her company looking top notch, decided to hire another person, less qualified but infinitely more popular with her employees. When Stacey showed up to work, Janet asked her to leave, explaining that they really didn’t have the money to hire her.

Later, Stacey learned that the other woman had received the job and that Janet had lied to her. Stacey was devastated and had to take a part time job as a waitress to feed her children.

Janet is innovative and always has new ideas. She is funny and loves to have fun. She can make people laugh and is constantly open to possibilities. Janet has worked her way to the top of every company she’s ever been a part of, and now, she has her own company. She’s also highly creative and enjoys art shows, theatrical performances and is a great performer herself, always participating in local theatrical productions, talent shows, etc.

Janet’s first marriage ended because she felt stifled and misunderstood. She left her husband after a couple of affairs that also ended with her feeling let down; when Janet finally left her husband, she did so without having anyone in the wing and truly did feel she could do better on her own, which she did. She realized that she had married wrong and had been mismatched for twenty-seven years. She never knew how happy she could be until she was living on her own. Five years after her divorce, she was perfectly happy. She spent her vacation time going places her husband was always too afraid to go and it was on one of her trips that she met her current husband, a quiet artist with a thirst for adventure. Together, they go off the beaten path and explore the novel, the quaint, the bizarre and the unusual and they both love doing it. Janet is happy in her current life.

Janet’s cognitive preferences are those of an ENFP and while she is not identical to every ENFP, she does share somethings in common with other ENFPs.

  1. ENFPs are energetic and have tremendous mental energy.
  2. ENFPs NEED change and without it, they become stagnant and unhappy.
  3. ENFPs love new, novel and exciting things, like new technology.
  4. ENFPs need to return to the familiar from time to time.
  5. ENFPs are aware of they value but may not be aware of the morals and values of others.
  6. ENFPs are experts at making connections, drawing analogies and coming up with or understanding metaphors.
  7. ENFPs can be dramatic and moody.

 

Train Us in the Ways We Should Go

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People are different.

We are born with different natures. Nature means the way we are naturally “bent” or inclined. We each have our own set of natural strengths and weaknesses. The book of Proverbs talks about training a child in the way he or she should go. The words “way he should go” there, literally translates into the direction in which a person is “bent” or “inclined.” King Solomon, all those years ago, understood that each of us has a natural, God-given, inclination and that we should train each child according to his or her own unique inclination, help him or her develop strengths and overcome weaknesses, each of which is different in every person. There is not a one size fits all mold for human beings.

So, we could say that the word “train” refers to nurture. Solomon tells us to nurture each child according to his or her own specific nature.

Nurture means our environments, our relationships, our belief systems and our experiences. Two people with the same nature may be very different because their nurture is so varied. So, teachings we receive, the environment, relationships, religious beliefs, cultural beliefs and life experiences will affect the person we become. We could say that our nature is influenced by our nurture.

Problems come when we expect everyone else to live by our own “natural” value systems. In other words, if I naturally value structure and another person values unhindered exploration, we may have issues, unless we come to understand that and approach each other with the other person’s values in mind.  This is where depth psychology comes into play. You may not EVER understand the letters Jung used and what they signified, but anyone who can think can, if they try, understand that other people see the world differently and value different aspects of human nature.

We each have one of 16 sets of cognitive “preferences” or ways of thinking. Preferences means that we subconsciously gravitate toward in much the same way that each of us gravitates toward left-handedness or right-handedness.

****IF WE UNDERSTAND THE NATURE OF A PERSON THEN THE TASK OF GETTING ALONG WITH THAT PERSON IS ALREADY 50% ACHIEVED. THEN ALL WE HAVE TO IS WORK ON THE NURTURE OF THAT PERSON.  When we understand the nature of a person, we are responsible to hold them to THEIR value system and not our own.

So having said that, here is a two word description of the basic nature of each of the sixteen types. (In depth psychology terms, it’s the dominant or hero function). This is what each of these types value and excel at.

ESTJ & ENTJ–thinking extraverted—ORDER & STRUCTURE

ISTJ & ISFJ–sensing introverted–SECURITY & STABILITY

ESFJ & ENFJ–extravert feeling–SOCIETY & MORALITY

ESTP & ESFP–sensing extraverted–EXPERIENCE & PIONEERING

ISTP & INTP–thinking introverted–LOGIC & PRECISION

INFP & ISFP–feeling introverted–INDIVIDUALITY & PERSONAL FREEDOM

ENTP & ENFP–iNtuition extraverted–EXPLORATION & TRANSFORMATION

INTJ & INFJ–iNtuition introverted–AUTONOMY & DISCOVERY

 

1 Person of each type who left a mark on this world:

  1. ESTJ–Billy Graham
  2. ENTJ–Carl Sagan
  3. ISTJ–Alexander Campbell (founder of Bethany College and the Church of Christ)
  4. ISFJ–Rosa Parks
  5. ESFJ–Harry Truman
  6. ENFJ–Martin Luther King Jr.
  7. ESTP–Winston Churchill
  8. ESFP–Hugh Hefner
  9. ISTP–Bruce Lee
  10. INTP–Einstein
  11. ENTP–Benjamin Franklin
  12. ENFP–Anne Frank
  13. INFP–Edgar Allen Poe
  14. ISFP–Jimmi Hendrix
  15. INTJ–C.S. Lewis
  16. INFJ–Thomas Jefferson

Meet Calvin, an INTP

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Ti=introverted thinking is the INTP’s superpower. This means that the INTP is gifted at logically dissecting and analyzing problems.
Ne=intuition extraverted is the parent function of the INTP and is where his/her responsibility lies. Ne in this position takes what Ti has perceived and analyzed and toys with possibilities of application.
Si=sensing introverted in the child position means that the INTP has a pure need for personal comfort. Unlike people who have Si in the hero position, in the child position, it means that the INTP needs to feel “safe” before they can be their true unguarded selves.
Fe=in the aspirational position means that INTPs often misinterpret what they others value or how they feel. It means that they aspire to make others happy and are let down when others are suddenly angry and lashing out at them. 

Calvin’s glasses are held together with electrical tape and he wears a hoodie and baggy jeans almost every day. He’s a quiet man most of the time except when he’s with his business partner, Eddie. The two of them constantly bounce ideas off each other. Calvin married right after college but the marriage fell through as Calvin did not do well with paying his bills, following a set schedule or showing up to work on time. When he did have money back then, he spent it on gaming equipment. His wife got tired of the bill collectors, food stamps and always being broke, so she left, thankful that they never had any children. So Calvin moved into the apartment above his parent’s garage and has been living there ever since.

Calvin started out as a clerk in a comic book store where he sold comics, figurines, gaming equipment and t-shirts to costumers, but when he met Eddie, the two of them discussed an idea for a particular kind of gaming software. Eddie had the money and the vision. Calvin had the ingenuity, so they partnered and eventually started their own company which is doing well, but Calvin has not bothered looking for a bigger or better house or more expensive clothing. He is content in his garage apartment so when he does spend money, it’s related to software development. Calvin doesn’t place a lot of value on the external world around him. His apartment is cluttered with wires, cables, computers, gaming paraphernalia and coffee cups.

Calvin seems to live and breathe to generate new ideas and improve upon the things he’s already developed. Existing rules or structures don’t mean much to Calvin when a new idea is born. He will by-pass the way things have always been done and pioneer a new, more innovative way. He approaches problems with skepticism, seeking patterns and logical explanations.

Calvin is a peaceful person and hates face-to-face conflict, although he is silently critical of others whom he deems as “unintelligent.” He often gets online at various forums, under different names, and “trolls” people. He says things to them just to get them going. In real life, he is conflict avoidant. He likes martial arts and can tell anyone all about the history of martial arts and all the best moves, but he would not engage in hand-to-hand combat because the one time that he did, a 100 pound Thai girl beat him up.

He doesn’t like to meet new people, usually, unless they are people who draw him in by discussing theories and ideas that appeal to him. Calvin doesn’t base his decisions on how he thinks others will feel about it or whether they will value it. His creativity tends to come in bursts of energy and he has to go with it when it hits. He may stay up until 3 a.m. or sleep until 3 p.m.

For Calvin it is important to express ideas and facts correctly. He expresses himself in what he considers truths and when he explains it to someone who isn’t an expert in the field he often forgets or doesn’t bother putting it into laymen’s terms. Thankfully, Eddie is strong in that area, of taking complicated things and putting them into simple terms, so Calvin leaves the public speaking to Eddie.

Calvin’s cognitive preferences are those of an INTP and while not all INTPs are just like Eddie, they do all have some things in common.

  1. INTPs see everything from an analytical point of view.
  2. INTPs cannot help but be logical.
  3. INTPs see possibilities and need to play around with them.
  4. INTPs are unaware of why others can’t see things more logically.
  5. INTPs want to be left alone to work or to work with a like-minded person.
  6. INTPS enjoy discussing theories and ideas.
  7. INTPs struggle with rigid structure.

 

 

 

Meet Adrian, an ENTP

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Ne=Intuition extraverted sees connections, makes inferences, deciphers patterns and toys with connections. This function is the ENTPs superpower and is in the hero position. 
Ti=Thinking introverted sees inconsistencies in logic, analyzes and fits information into an internal framework. This is the ENTP’s parent function and is where his or her responsibility lies. The ENTP will always look for the underlying truth in any situation or problem because that is where their “parent function” is at. 
Fe=Feeling extraverted cares how you feel and what you value. It is in the ENTP’s child position, meaning that the ENTP has pure desire to make others feel good and happy. It is what makes ENTPs some of the greatest givers. And coupled with the Ne hero (which is unpredictable and playful itself, Fe child makes ENTPs delightfully humorous and playful at times.)
Si=Sensing introverted in the aspirational position means that ENTPs need to a “place” where they feel secure and comfortable. 

Adrian is fun, optimistic and outgoing, he doesn’t need the approval of others. Yet, he needs a certain kind of others. He needs to be around smart people, people who are interested in the metaphysical side of life and people who are open to trying new things. He isn’t afraid of valid criticism and actually welcomes it if it will enrich his life in the long run. His feelings are not easily hurt. However, when someone lashes out at him emotionally and without objective reasoning, he finds himself mirroring their anger. On the flip side, when he is around jovial people, he finds it easier to be jovial himself. He needs stimulating, in-depth and lively conversations. He needs someone to extravert his ideas with and discuss possibilities and implications. He needs someone to dream with.

He is a master of boundary pushing, and tends to provoke arguments out of others. He can usually justify what they think or say better than they can but he wants to know how they came to see things the way they do. This helps him “grow” and invariably increases his ability to fix or improve things.

Adrain is a giver and has a large circle of many interesting people in his life. Having to endure boring, sameness and stagnation are torturous to Adrian.

In conversations, Adrian doesn’t have to hear the whole story to get the picture. Making inferences and drawing analogies are his superpowers and so is coming up with new ideas. Those who work under him often complain that he changes things just to be changing them and actually, that’s true.  He constantly toys with ideas and relationships.  He tends to shift situational dynamics and trusts that something good will come out of it. Every piece of data, every experience or external stimuli leads him to make inferences, draw analogies, come up metaphors, jokes and more new ideas.

It is hard to manipulate Adrian, because he has a gift for guessing the details and is adept at “what if” scenarios. He has a lot of mental energy and often entertains multiple ideas and meanings at once.  He is proficient at weighing the odds, at categorizing, and seems to separate his feelings, his body and his mind when he is arguing or having a discussion. This separation is not to be “mean” to others. Most of the time, he is only throwing out ideas or intentionally trying to get others to “think” and make their lives better or bigger. He wants people to grow and he wants to grow himself and often this flies in the face of accepted social constructs and traditions. That’s not to say he doesn’t need “some” tradition. He still tears up every Christmas when he sees a red poinsettia, remembering how his mom always put them the hearth and how they gathered around and sang carols.

His objectivity and need to “push” the limits often translates into mentally, verbally and emotionally pushing others to the edge of their comfort zones and results in some people backlashing him. Because of these adverse reactions to efforts to help others grow and move forward in life, he has learned to cover up what he really thinks at times, and most certainly, what he feels. Therefore, some members of his family and co-workers have accused him of being deceptive. He is wounded when his attempts to help or give to others turns to criticism and backlash. He wants to give people joy, to see them happy.

Adrian’s cognitive preferences are those of an ENTP and although not all ENTPs will be exactly like Adrian, they do all have certain characteristics.

  1. ENTPs are witty and innovative.
  2. ENTPs hate boredom and stagnation.
  3. ENTPs do not like rigid structure and systems.
  4. ENTPs seek out and need life experiences.
  5. ENTPs are path finders and givers, seeking to help others be the best they can be.
  6. ENTPs are open-minded.
  7. ENTPs have a wide variety of hobbies, interests and talents.

 

Meet Willow, an INFJ

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The cognitive preferences of INFJs are:

Ni-introverted intuition in the hero position is perspective-shifting in that it is constantly at work on a subconscious level, sorting through information that comes in via the five senses or some unconscious means, giving the INFJ (INTJs, too), the ability to see things from many different angles and viewpoints at once. Ni is the NJs’ superpower, giving them insight into relationships, imagination, originality, ingenuity and visions of what not only could be but the road to take to get there.

Fe-feeling that’s extraverted in the parent position is where the INFJ’s responsibility lies. Whenever INFJs experience the sensation that the values of others are being violated, this function steps in and reminds them that they have a responsibility to the well-being and happiness of others. Fe is aware of what matters to others and how others feel. Coupled with a hero Ni, this means that INFJ is always subjected to having to balance what they see as best and what they want (Ni) with the consequential effects on others.

Ti-in the child position means that the INFJ has a form of pure logic, that when unhampered by interfering Fe, and in service to heroic Ni, can devise a plan to accomplish, basically anything in a step-by-step manner. It also means that INFJs may get so focused on what they think that they fail to listen to the advice or thoughts of others.

Se-extraverted sensing in the aspirational position may mean that INFJs worry about giving others a bad experience or doing something that cause physical harm to others. Yet, on a positive note, it serves as a release valve for the mental energy consumed by massive use of Ni and Ti. When young, INFJs may be so distracted by the never ceasing noise in their heads that they forget where they’re going or walk into something but as they move out of adolescence, they may become physically involved with any number of sports or physical activities.

Meet Willow, an INFJ

Willow is a writer. She takes long walks. She needs time to think. Time to hear her “own heart.”

Thinking helps her determine what she is feeling and why she feels that way. Thinking helps her make sense of her world.  She is strategic in almost everything she does and tends to see patterns on a subconscious level. She also understands many things without ever having officially learned them and may not be able to recall how she knows them.

Willow has a keen sense of personal direction and is led by something that can only be likened to an internal guidance system.  She can’t explain it no matter how hard she tries. She hates being asked personal questions, and she hates having to explain her past or why she chooses certain things. Her greatest personal intention is to live with integrity and authenticity. She constantly struggles with what she sees as the right path for her own life and what others want and expect from her.

Willow has an undaunting and tenacious will power and even when emotionally distraught, or physically in pain, she will press forward on behalf of something she values and believes in, especially if the well-being of another is involved. She has been known to literally lay her life on the line for the sake of others.

Willow has a beautiful sense of humor and can make people laugh at the drop of a pin. Wherever she goes, people flock to her. They say she is like a light entering the room and makes others feel good about themselves when she is with them. Friends say that Willow is inspiring and they feel connected to her. Willow feels good when she makes others feel good, however, she often feels drained, like people have some sort of invisible energy IV hooked to her, trying to siphon off her life energy. Even when she tries to be alone, people find her.

Friends and family will often ask her to do things she doesn’t really believe in or want to do, yet she has an incredibly hard time saying no and wrestles daily with requests from other people.  She constantly feels torn between being true to herself and maintaining harmony with others. Willow’s greatest fears are that she will irreparably damage another person by following her own passions and she is very passionate internally while remaining calm on the surface most of the time.

With a high IQ the ability to speak multiple languages, paint, dance, sing, write and learn anything she sets her mind to, Willow is gifted, yet has struggled with her self-worth many times, feeling that it is somehow her responsibility to make everyone happy, to fix their problems and take away their pain without judging them for anything they did or didn’t do to cause that pain in the first place. Her best friend tells her that she has unreasonable expectations of herself and is too hard on herself, while letting other people get off easy.

She struggles with mechanical aptitude and her family laughed at her struggle to learn to drive. She struggles with Si dominate skills like keeping up with binders, folders, data etc. Willow feels this stuff is pointless. She can keep up with stuff in her head. Why does she need all that clutter in her physical world? Clutter and conflict make her physically ill. She really just wants to be left alone and allowed to work in her own way most of the time.

That’s not to say she doesn’t like structure, she does, somewhat. It just needs to be a lose structure with room for spurts of creativity. She dreams of travel and adventure and writes historical fiction with intricate characters, twisting plots and many subplots. Willow is highly observant of human interactions and intuitively understands unspoken motives. She bases her interactions with others on what she picks up off them, not what they show on the surface.

The ”mundane” things of life are a weight around her neck. She longs for escape from the ordinary day in and day out routines of life, and often finds it through her fantastic imagination.

She is always prioritizing. Above all things, Willow wants to leave behind something that makes the world a more enlightened place. She wants to help open the spiritual eyes of others and feels this is her highest call in life. That is why she writes, to communicate a truth that is bigger and far more reaching than her immediate circle. She wants to leave a legacy of what it means to live for something bigger than one’s immediate needs.

Willow has the cognitive preferences of an INFJ and while not all INFJs are the same, they do all share some characteristics:

  1. INFJs know things without knowing how they know them.
  2. INFJs see many angles at the same time.
  3. INFJs feel responsible for the experiences and feelings of others.
  4. INFJs have a pure logic with the ability to analyze and synthesis on a subconscious level.
  5. INFJs need a loose but dependable structure.
  6. INFJs are strategic yet they are movement oriented (they get bored with stagnation and seek adventure.)
  7. INFJs are creative.

Meet Tony, an ENFJ

 

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The cognitive preferences of ENFJs are:

Fe–in the hero position means that they are heroically aware of the values and feelings of others. It’s the first thing they pick up when in any environment. It’s their superpower.

Ni–in the parent position means that they are responsible for their purpose, goal, intent and desire. Ni in this position, coupled with Fe in the hero position, positions ENFJs to be the world’s best con-artists, ministers, public speakers and entertainers. (realize that any type can enter any field or occupation but ENFJs are gifted in these areas.)

Se-in the child position means that ENFJs sincerely want others to have a good experience, to be comfortable. It also means they have a childlike need to be in the moment which further serves to make them great entertainers, etc. It causes others to automatically feel at ease in their presence.

Ti-is in their aspirational position and this means that they aspire to really analyze and understand things. It also means that they may not always listen to reason and when upset can become irrational, accusing others of thinking things they have no proof of.

Tony is empathetic, compassionate and sincerely kind. He is soulful and sensitive and has such an intense need to mentor and nurture that he volunteers to take a missionary trip to a particular village in Haiti every year just before Christmas where he will deliver books, crayons, pencils and other items to children. He does puppet skits for them and tells them Bible stories. These trips are the highlight of Tony’s life. He feels it is his purpose in life to bring hope to Haiti. He saves his money all year for the trip. He works craft festivals all summer, selling various items he has made in order to fund his trip. He set up a “go fund me” page and gets a few pledges there, but nowhere near enough. So, Tony makes the sacrifices himself in order to accomplish what he believes in and what he believes in is helping the children of Haiti. He wants to make a mark in that country.

Tony has been married two times. The first wife said his personality was too strong and that he was too devoted to his goals. She said she couldn’t compete with “the poor children of Haiti,” and she left. His second wife became jealous of Tony after a performance of the Lion King at a local theatre. She wasn’t jealous of Tony and another woman. She was jealous of all the attention and adoration he was getting. She felt threatened. Now, single with no children, Tony prays that one day a woman with as much passion and desire to help others will come his way. He also hopes she’ll be fit and strong, because that matters to him, as well. He has plenty of female suitors but most of them can’t handle the strength of Tony’s commitment to his life’s “calling.” And if there’s one thing Tony is sure of, it’s that he can’t give up his calling or back down on his commitment to the children of Haiti for anyone.

When Tony walks into a room, he lights it up. Everyone notices him. He is warm, charming, funny, wears interesting clothes and people flock to him. They love to be in his presence. Tony loves other people and he also enjoys the attention he gets from other people. He’s not a narcissist by any means, he is completely concerned about others but he loves to be loved. He has found an outlet for this paradox of his nature by acting. He has tried many different occupations, but theatre allows him to explore his own personality and still connect with others. It allows him to adore his audience and his audience to adore him, without feeling guilt over having others admire him. It’s also a platform. Tony gets invited to speak a many events and it’s from the stage that he can talk about the plight of the children in Haiti while he simultaneously makes people laugh and feel good about themselves.

Off-Stage, Tony enjoys deep and meaningful conversations about the things that matter in life, eternal things, spiritual things, world-shaking things, religion, politics and scientific discoveries. If Tony finds a person interesting, he will make a special attempt to get to know that person better. He will ask questions to uncover the person’s dreams, ambitions and passions. Tony makes others feel wanted and appreciated. He makes them feel special. His twin brother, Timothy, has the same abilities, but Timothy is a con-artist who uses his gifts for reading people to swindle them out of money. Tony prefers the route of a performing missionary and wants to change the world in a good way.

For all his passion and warmth and intelligence, Tony doesn’t do small talk. He gets bored with surface conversation. However, he loves listening to others talk about what he considers “real” issues and he is excellent at providing direction. His friends have nicknamed him “Male Oprah.”

While Tony is just ONE of many possible manifestations of an ENFJ, keep in mind that all ENFJs have some things in common:

  1. ENFJs care how others feel.
  2. ENFJs are responsible for their own goals in life. No one else will lay out their future for them or tell them what they want. They KNOW what they want and what they have to do to get it.
  3. ENFJs are keenly aware of what looks good, what provides others with a good experience (or a bad one). Some may be into physical fitness of any variety, especially as they get older.
  4. ENFJs can be doggedly stubborn and determined. I have heard them called “contrary” on more than one occasion.
  5. ENFJs don’t give up on what they see as the right path for them. If a door closes, they will knock out a window.
  6. If you want to appeal to an ENFJ, appeal to their heart by telling them how you feel. They care more about what values you hold dear than about what you think.
  7. ENFJs are usually altruistic and sincere.

Meet Ella, an INTJ

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The cognitive preferences of INTJs are as follows:

Ni-introverted intuition in the hero position is perspective-shifting in that it is constantly at work on a subconscious level, sorting through information that comes in via the five senses or some unconscious means, giving the INFJ (INTJs, too), the ability to see things from many different angles and viewpoints at once. Ni is the NJs’ superpower, giving them insight into relationships, imagination, originality, ingenuity and visions of what not only could be but the road to take to get there.
Te-extroverted thinking in the parent position means that INTJs see things objectively and systematically. They have a structure and order and bring ideas back to standardized measurements or rationale. INTJs pay attention to the way things are structured or ordered. This is where their responsibility lies. They feel the responsibility to point out rationale and reasoning to others.
Fi-in the child position means that INTJs have a pure childlike awareness of their own values but may not be aware of the values of others. They are aware of their own feelings but may fail to understand or recognize the feelings of others. Sometimes this causes INTJs to be social unaware. 
Se-in the aspirational function, Se works on an axis with Ni, subconsciously feeding it. It also serves as a release valve for INTJs. It is not uncommon for INTJs in their 30s and beyond to take up Salsa, Martial Arts, weight lifting, gardening, cooking or some other hobby that allows them to engage in the moment. However, Se in this position can also cause the INTJ to develop performance anxiety as they desire to give others a good experience.
Meet Ella 

Ella is a biology professor; she works best alone.

She doesn’t like having to serve on university committees where people often end up going off-topic and accomplishing little. She had rather be in her lab, actually getting something done. She is careful planner and tends to do things in a systematic way. She is not a stickler for order, but she does need some order in her life. She needs people to be on time or at least call and let her know why they’re not. She needs to have at least a rough-outline of what to expect when going into a situation. Her lab is clean and spacious and when she’s in there alone she often listens to classical guitar music. She is a minimalist and doesn’t like “stuff.” However, the few things she does want are high quality.

When Ella was a child her family lived in an old farmhouse with a woodshed in the backyard. This shed became Ella’s “lab.” Ella spent long hours collecting insects in jars, labeling them and putting them on a shelf her father had built for her. She often did sketches of the insects and kept a journal on their behaviors.  She checked out a book on insects every time her class went to the school library. Sometimes, she developed notions about how the insects might behave if she put certain ones together, then she would do that and watch to see what happened.

Ella focuses on ideas and concepts. She is a big picture person and gets frustrated when having to work with too many mundane details. She once had a job as accountant but quit after a week. The boredom was killing her she said. There was no intellectual simulation, no invigorating conversations, no inspiration and no opportunity for her to create. Ella is very creative.

Constantly looking for the best way to do things, Ella has keen perception and can easily deduce a pattern or see a trend. She has a childlike adherence to her values and knows exactly what she values. However, she isn’t so keen on discerning the values and intentions of others. In fact, when her boyfriend (who is habitually late and loses track of time) doesn’t think to call and tell her that he’s running late, she begins to imagine all sorts of things. Maybe he just doesn’t like her anymore. Maybe he had a flat tired. Maybe he had an accident.  She is uncomfortable around strong displays of emotion and doesn’t really know how to respond or react to them. She has a calm demeanor most of the time. Intelligence, loyalty, dependability and competence matter to Ella and she respects those qualities in others.

Ella constantly absorbs her environment and things that she doesn’t even know she notices seem to get filed away in some hidden filing system and later, she mysteriously knows things without having a clue as to how she knows them.

When she was younger she was clumsy but now that she is older she has taken up Salsa dancing and is quite good at it. She never considered herself athletic before but this new hobby lets out a side to her that was unknown to her before.

There have been a few times in her life when she realized that she couldn’t see a best way out of a particular circumstance so she just lived in the moment. Once she spent an entire summer alone, studying insects of the Smokey Mountains. She just needed time to get away from people and clear her head.

Ella is quiet confidence in motion. She doesn’t care what others feel as much as she cares what they think. What are their ideas? She will take the best of those ideas and run with them to develop something tangible or to perfect a project she’s working on. Ella has a good sense of humor that most others don’t know about.

Ella’s cognitive preferences are those of an INTJ and while she isn’t an example of ALL INTJs, there are certain traits that all INTJs have in common:

  1. INTJs have a strong will.
  2. INTJs need time alone.
  3. INTJs are objective.
  4. INTJs tend to be rationale.
  5. INTJs see the big picture.
  6. INTJs finish what they start.
  7. INTJs are strategic in every thing they do.