Meet Adrian, an ENTP

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Ne=Intuition extraverted sees connections, makes inferences, deciphers patterns and toys with connections. This function is the ENTPs superpower and is in the hero position. 
Ti=Thinking introverted sees inconsistencies in logic, analyzes and fits information into an internal framework. This is the ENTP’s parent function and is where his or her responsibility lies. The ENTP will always look for the underlying truth in any situation or problem because that is where their “parent function” is at. 
Fe=Feeling extraverted cares how you feel and what you value. It is in the ENTP’s child position, meaning that the ENTP has pure desire to make others feel good and happy. It is what makes ENTPs some of the greatest givers. And coupled with the Ne hero (which is unpredictable and playful itself, Fe child makes ENTPs delightfully humorous and playful at times.)
Si=Sensing introverted in the aspirational position means that ENTPs need to a “place” where they feel secure and comfortable. 

Adrian is fun, optimistic and outgoing, he doesn’t need the approval of others. Yet, he needs a certain kind of others. He needs to be around smart people, people who are interested in the metaphysical side of life and people who are open to trying new things. He isn’t afraid of valid criticism and actually welcomes it if it will enrich his life in the long run. His feelings are not easily hurt. However, when someone lashes out at him emotionally and without objective reasoning, he finds himself mirroring their anger. On the flip side, when he is around jovial people, he finds it easier to be jovial himself. He needs stimulating, in-depth and lively conversations. He needs someone to extravert his ideas with and discuss possibilities and implications. He needs someone to dream with.

He is a master of boundary pushing, and tends to provoke arguments out of others. He can usually justify what they think or say better than they can but he wants to know how they came to see things the way they do. This helps him “grow” and invariably increases his ability to fix or improve things.

Adrain is a giver and has a large circle of many interesting people in his life. Having to endure boring, sameness and stagnation are torturous to Adrian.

In conversations, Adrian doesn’t have to hear the whole story to get the picture. Making inferences and drawing analogies are his superpowers and so is coming up with new ideas. Those who work under him often complain that he changes things just to be changing them and actually, that’s true.  He constantly toys with ideas and relationships.  He tends to shift situational dynamics and trusts that something good will come out of it. Every piece of data, every experience or external stimuli leads him to make inferences, draw analogies, come up metaphors, jokes and more new ideas.

It is hard to manipulate Adrian, because he has a gift for guessing the details and is adept at “what if” scenarios. He has a lot of mental energy and often entertains multiple ideas and meanings at once.  He is proficient at weighing the odds, at categorizing, and seems to separate his feelings, his body and his mind when he is arguing or having a discussion. This separation is not to be “mean” to others. Most of the time, he is only throwing out ideas or intentionally trying to get others to “think” and make their lives better or bigger. He wants people to grow and he wants to grow himself and often this flies in the face of accepted social constructs and traditions. That’s not to say he doesn’t need “some” tradition. He still tears up every Christmas when he sees a red poinsettia, remembering how his mom always put them the hearth and how they gathered around and sang carols.

His objectivity and need to “push” the limits often translates into mentally, verbally and emotionally pushing others to the edge of their comfort zones and results in some people backlashing him. Because of these adverse reactions to efforts to help others grow and move forward in life, he has learned to cover up what he really thinks at times, and most certainly, what he feels. Therefore, some members of his family and co-workers have accused him of being deceptive. He is wounded when his attempts to help or give to others turns to criticism and backlash. He wants to give people joy, to see them happy.

Adrian’s cognitive preferences are those of an ENTP and although not all ENTPs will be exactly like Adrian, they do all have certain characteristics.

  1. ENTPs are witty and innovative.
  2. ENTPs hate boredom and stagnation.
  3. ENTPs do not like rigid structure and systems.
  4. ENTPs seek out and need life experiences.
  5. ENTPs are path finders and givers, seeking to help others be the best they can be.
  6. ENTPs are open-minded.
  7. ENTPs have a wide variety of hobbies, interests and talents.


Meet Willow, an INFJ

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The cognitive preferences of INFJs are:

Ni-introverted intuition in the hero position is perspective-shifting in that it is constantly at work on a subconscious level, sorting through information that comes in via the five senses or some unconscious means, giving the INFJ (INTJs, too), the ability to see things from many different angles and viewpoints at once. Ni is the NJs’ superpower, giving them insight into relationships, imagination, originality, ingenuity and visions of what not only could be but the road to take to get there.

Fe-feeling that’s extraverted in the parent position is where the INFJ’s responsibility lies. Whenever INFJs experience the sensation that the values of others are being violated, this function steps in and reminds them that they have a responsibility to the well-being and happiness of others. Fe is aware of what matters to others and how others feel. Coupled with a hero Ni, this means that INFJ is always subjected to having to balance what they see as best and what they want (Ni) with the consequential effects on others.

Ti-in the child position means that the INFJ has a form of pure logic, that when unhampered by interfering Fe, and in service to heroic Ni, can devise a plan to accomplish, basically anything in a step-by-step manner. It also means that INFJs may get so focused on what they think that they fail to listen to the advice or thoughts of others.

Se-extraverted sensing in the aspirational position may mean that INFJs worry about giving others a bad experience or doing something that cause physical harm to others. Yet, on a positive note, it serves as a release valve for the mental energy consumed by massive use of Ni and Ti. When young, INFJs may be so distracted by the never ceasing noise in their heads that they forget where they’re going or walk into something but as they move out of adolescence, they may become physically involved with any number of sports or physical activities.

Meet Willow, an INFJ

Willow is a writer. She takes long walks. She needs time to think. Time to hear her “own heart.”

Thinking helps her determine what she is feeling and why she feels that way. Thinking helps her make sense of her world.  She is strategic in almost everything she does and tends to see patterns on a subconscious level. She also understands many things without ever having officially learned them and may not be able to recall how she knows them.

Willow has a keen sense of personal direction and is led by something that can only be likened to an internal guidance system.  She can’t explain it no matter how hard she tries. She hates being asked personal questions, and she hates having to explain her past or why she chooses certain things. Her greatest personal intention is to live with integrity and authenticity. She constantly struggles with what she sees as the right path for her own life and what others want and expect from her.

Willow has an undaunting and tenacious will power and even when emotionally distraught, or physically in pain, she will press forward on behalf of something she values and believes in, especially if the well-being of another is involved. She has been known to literally lay her life on the line for the sake of others.

Willow has a beautiful sense of humor and can make people laugh at the drop of a pin. Wherever she goes, people flock to her. They say she is like a light entering the room and makes others feel good about themselves when she is with them. Friends say that Willow is inspiring and they feel connected to her. Willow feels good when she makes others feel good, however, she often feels drained, like people have some sort of invisible energy IV hooked to her, trying to siphon off her life energy. Even when she tries to be alone, people find her.

Friends and family will often ask her to do things she doesn’t really believe in or want to do, yet she has an incredibly hard time saying no and wrestles daily with requests from other people.  She constantly feels torn between being true to herself and maintaining harmony with others. Willow’s greatest fears are that she will irreparably damage another person by following her own passions and she is very passionate internally while remaining calm on the surface most of the time.

With a high IQ the ability to speak multiple languages, paint, dance, sing, write and learn anything she sets her mind to, Willow is gifted, yet has struggled with her self-worth many times, feeling that it is somehow her responsibility to make everyone happy, to fix their problems and take away their pain without judging them for anything they did or didn’t do to cause that pain in the first place. Her best friend tells her that she has unreasonable expectations of herself and is too hard on herself, while letting other people get off easy.

She struggles with mechanical aptitude and her family laughed at her struggle to learn to drive. She struggles with Si dominate skills like keeping up with binders, folders, data etc. Willow feels this stuff is pointless. She can keep up with stuff in her head. Why does she need all that clutter in her physical world? Clutter and conflict make her physically ill. She really just wants to be left alone and allowed to work in her own way most of the time.

That’s not to say she doesn’t like structure, she does, somewhat. It just needs to be a lose structure with room for spurts of creativity. She dreams of travel and adventure and writes historical fiction with intricate characters, twisting plots and many subplots. Willow is highly observant of human interactions and intuitively understands unspoken motives. She bases her interactions with others on what she picks up off them, not what they show on the surface.

The ”mundane” things of life are a weight around her neck. She longs for escape from the ordinary day in and day out routines of life, and often finds it through her fantastic imagination.

She is always prioritizing. Above all things, Willow wants to leave behind something that makes the world a more enlightened place. She wants to help open the spiritual eyes of others and feels this is her highest call in life. That is why she writes, to communicate a truth that is bigger and far more reaching than her immediate circle. She wants to leave a legacy of what it means to live for something bigger than one’s immediate needs.

Willow has the cognitive preferences of an INFJ and while not all INFJs are the same, they do all share some characteristics:

  1. INFJs know things without knowing how they know them.
  2. INFJs see many angles at the same time.
  3. INFJs feel responsible for the experiences and feelings of others.
  4. INFJs have a pure logic with the ability to analyze and synthesis on a subconscious level.
  5. INFJs need a loose but dependable structure.
  6. INFJs are strategic yet they are movement oriented (they get bored with stagnation and seek adventure.)
  7. INFJs are creative.

Meet Tony, an ENFJ


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The cognitive preferences of ENFJs are:

Fe–in the hero position means that they are heroically aware of the values and feelings of others. It’s the first thing they pick up when in any environment. It’s their superpower.

Ni–in the parent position means that they are responsible for their purpose, goal, intent and desire. Ni in this position, coupled with Fe in the hero position, positions ENFJs to be the world’s best con-artists, ministers, public speakers and entertainers. (realize that any type can enter any field or occupation but ENFJs are gifted in these areas.)

Se-in the child position means that ENFJs sincerely want others to have a good experience, to be comfortable. It also means they have a childlike need to be in the moment which further serves to make them great entertainers, etc. It causes others to automatically feel at ease in their presence.

Ti-is in their aspirational position and this means that they aspire to really analyze and understand things. It also means that they may not always listen to reason and when upset can become irrational, accusing others of thinking things they have no proof of.

Tony is empathetic, compassionate and sincerely kind. He is soulful and sensitive and has such an intense need to mentor and nurture that he volunteers to take a missionary trip to a particular village in Haiti every year just before Christmas where he will deliver books, crayons, pencils and other items to children. He does puppet skits for them and tells them Bible stories. These trips are the highlight of Tony’s life. He feels it is his purpose in life to bring hope to Haiti. He saves his money all year for the trip. He works craft festivals all summer, selling various items he has made in order to fund his trip. He set up a “go fund me” page and gets a few pledges there, but nowhere near enough. So, Tony makes the sacrifices himself in order to accomplish what he believes in and what he believes in is helping the children of Haiti. He wants to make a mark in that country.

Tony has been married two times. The first wife said his personality was too strong and that he was too devoted to his goals. She said she couldn’t compete with “the poor children of Haiti,” and she left. His second wife became jealous of Tony after a performance of the Lion King at a local theatre. She wasn’t jealous of Tony and another woman. She was jealous of all the attention and adoration he was getting. She felt threatened. Now, single with no children, Tony prays that one day a woman with as much passion and desire to help others will come his way. He also hopes she’ll be fit and strong, because that matters to him, as well. He has plenty of female suitors but most of them can’t handle the strength of Tony’s commitment to his life’s “calling.” And if there’s one thing Tony is sure of, it’s that he can’t give up his calling or back down on his commitment to the children of Haiti for anyone.

When Tony walks into a room, he lights it up. Everyone notices him. He is warm, charming, funny, wears interesting clothes and people flock to him. They love to be in his presence. Tony loves other people and he also enjoys the attention he gets from other people. He’s not a narcissist by any means, he is completely concerned about others but he loves to be loved. He has found an outlet for this paradox of his nature by acting. He has tried many different occupations, but theatre allows him to explore his own personality and still connect with others. It allows him to adore his audience and his audience to adore him, without feeling guilt over having others admire him. It’s also a platform. Tony gets invited to speak a many events and it’s from the stage that he can talk about the plight of the children in Haiti while he simultaneously makes people laugh and feel good about themselves.

Off-Stage, Tony enjoys deep and meaningful conversations about the things that matter in life, eternal things, spiritual things, world-shaking things, religion, politics and scientific discoveries. If Tony finds a person interesting, he will make a special attempt to get to know that person better. He will ask questions to uncover the person’s dreams, ambitions and passions. Tony makes others feel wanted and appreciated. He makes them feel special. His twin brother, Timothy, has the same abilities, but Timothy is a con-artist who uses his gifts for reading people to swindle them out of money. Tony prefers the route of a performing missionary and wants to change the world in a good way.

For all his passion and warmth and intelligence, Tony doesn’t do small talk. He gets bored with surface conversation. However, he loves listening to others talk about what he considers “real” issues and he is excellent at providing direction. His friends have nicknamed him “Male Oprah.”

While Tony is just ONE of many possible manifestations of an ENFJ, keep in mind that all ENFJs have some things in common:

  1. ENFJs care how others feel.
  2. ENFJs are responsible for their own goals in life. No one else will lay out their future for them or tell them what they want. They KNOW what they want and what they have to do to get it.
  3. ENFJs are keenly aware of what looks good, what provides others with a good experience (or a bad one). Some may be into physical fitness of any variety, especially as they get older.
  4. ENFJs can be doggedly stubborn and determined. I have heard them called “contrary” on more than one occasion.
  5. ENFJs don’t give up on what they see as the right path for them. If a door closes, they will knock out a window.
  6. If you want to appeal to an ENFJ, appeal to their heart by telling them how you feel. They care more about what values you hold dear than about what you think.
  7. ENFJs are usually altruistic and sincere.

Meet Ella, an INTJ

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The cognitive preferences of INTJs are as follows:

Ni-introverted intuition in the hero position is perspective-shifting in that it is constantly at work on a subconscious level, sorting through information that comes in via the five senses or some unconscious means, giving the INFJ (INTJs, too), the ability to see things from many different angles and viewpoints at once. Ni is the NJs’ superpower, giving them insight into relationships, imagination, originality, ingenuity and visions of what not only could be but the road to take to get there.
Te-extroverted thinking in the parent position means that INTJs see things objectively and systematically. They have a structure and order and bring ideas back to standardized measurements or rationale. INTJs pay attention to the way things are structured or ordered. This is where their responsibility lies. They feel the responsibility to point out rationale and reasoning to others.
Fi-in the child position means that INTJs have a pure childlike awareness of their own values but may not be aware of the values of others. They are aware of their own feelings but may fail to understand or recognize the feelings of others. Sometimes this causes INTJs to be social unaware. 
Se-in the aspirational function, Se works on an axis with Ni, subconsciously feeding it. It also serves as a release valve for INTJs. It is not uncommon for INTJs in their 30s and beyond to take up Salsa, Martial Arts, weight lifting, gardening, cooking or some other hobby that allows them to engage in the moment. However, Se in this position can also cause the INTJ to develop performance anxiety as they desire to give others a good experience.
Meet Ella 

Ella is a biology professor; she works best alone.

She doesn’t like having to serve on university committees where people often end up going off-topic and accomplishing little. She had rather be in her lab, actually getting something done. She is careful planner and tends to do things in a systematic way. She is not a stickler for order, but she does need some order in her life. She needs people to be on time or at least call and let her know why they’re not. She needs to have at least a rough-outline of what to expect when going into a situation. Her lab is clean and spacious and when she’s in there alone she often listens to classical guitar music. She is a minimalist and doesn’t like “stuff.” However, the few things she does want are high quality.

When Ella was a child her family lived in an old farmhouse with a woodshed in the backyard. This shed became Ella’s “lab.” Ella spent long hours collecting insects in jars, labeling them and putting them on a shelf her father had built for her. She often did sketches of the insects and kept a journal on their behaviors.  She checked out a book on insects every time her class went to the school library. Sometimes, she developed notions about how the insects might behave if she put certain ones together, then she would do that and watch to see what happened.

Ella focuses on ideas and concepts. She is a big picture person and gets frustrated when having to work with too many mundane details. She once had a job as accountant but quit after a week. The boredom was killing her she said. There was no intellectual simulation, no invigorating conversations, no inspiration and no opportunity for her to create. Ella is very creative.

Constantly looking for the best way to do things, Ella has keen perception and can easily deduce a pattern or see a trend. She has a childlike adherence to her values and knows exactly what she values. However, she isn’t so keen on discerning the values and intentions of others. In fact, when her boyfriend (who is habitually late and loses track of time) doesn’t think to call and tell her that he’s running late, she begins to imagine all sorts of things. Maybe he just doesn’t like her anymore. Maybe he had a flat tired. Maybe he had an accident.  She is uncomfortable around strong displays of emotion and doesn’t really know how to respond or react to them. She has a calm demeanor most of the time. Intelligence, loyalty, dependability and competence matter to Ella and she respects those qualities in others.

Ella constantly absorbs her environment and things that she doesn’t even know she notices seem to get filed away in some hidden filing system and later, she mysteriously knows things without having a clue as to how she knows them.

When she was younger she was clumsy but now that she is older she has taken up Salsa dancing and is quite good at it. She never considered herself athletic before but this new hobby lets out a side to her that was unknown to her before.

There have been a few times in her life when she realized that she couldn’t see a best way out of a particular circumstance so she just lived in the moment. Once she spent an entire summer alone, studying insects of the Smokey Mountains. She just needed time to get away from people and clear her head.

Ella is quiet confidence in motion. She doesn’t care what others feel as much as she cares what they think. What are their ideas? She will take the best of those ideas and run with them to develop something tangible or to perfect a project she’s working on. Ella has a good sense of humor that most others don’t know about.

Ella’s cognitive preferences are those of an INTJ and while she isn’t an example of ALL INTJs, there are certain traits that all INTJs have in common:

  1. INTJs have a strong will.
  2. INTJs need time alone.
  3. INTJs are objective.
  4. INTJs tend to be rationale.
  5. INTJs see the big picture.
  6. INTJs finish what they start.
  7. INTJs are strategic in every thing they do.






Meet Thomas, an ENTJ

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ENTJ’s cognitive preference line-up is as follows:

hero-Te: this ensures that ENTJs are systematic, pragmatic and use established, objective protocol.

Parent-Ni: this means that ENTJs are determined, willful, automatically see what needs to be done in order to accomplish a goal or finish a task.

Child-Se: in this pure, innocent position, ENTJs do not hesitate to take action immediately, to strike while the iron is hot, do what needs doing and get things accomplished.

Apsiration-Fi: ENTJs know what they value and may mistakenly think that’s what others value as well or they may be completely unaware of the values and feelings of others, even though they want to believe they do. They need to hear that they are good people and doing good things.


Thomas is an entrepreneur. He is efficient, systematic and gets things done. He makes his decisions based on what works the best. He doesn’t waste time and likes to strike while the iron is hot, so to speak. He doesn’t believe in agonizing over a decision and sees the most effective solution right up front. He has a lot of things going on internally as he constantly scans the whole complexity of issues and brings into focus what needs to be attended to. However, the one area he often overlooks is how his decisions will affect the values and feelings of others. He is often surprised when someone close to him has a “melt-down” over a decision that he has made or a policy he has initiated.

For all of his business-like structure, Thomas has a playful side and enjoys a good adventure once in a while. He is a master at taking calculated business risks and coming out on top.

He is aware of his value system and mistakenly thinks others value the same things. Sometimes, his wife angrily accuses him of being a bull in a China shop when it comes to calculating how others will feel about or react to what he considers the most efficient business decision and sometimes she accuses him of treating his family like a corporation.

Thomas seems to flip between two modes of operation; on the one hand he is constantly aware of his environment, on the other he zeros in on one particular issue or problem. Thomas is a great problem-solver.

Thomas is driven and values doing things for himself. He started working for a Pizza Hut as soon as he could legally hold a job. He saved his money and at 22 purchased a building, got a business license and opened his own pizzeria. It was so successful that he bought a building in a nearby town, hired some people and opened a second pizza place. Thomas has made millions with his various business ventures. He currently owns two pizzerias, an RV park, a rental storage facility and serves on the local schoolboard.

It bothers Thomas that his family sometimes fails to see the importance of his work or appreciate all that he does and has done to provide them with comfortable living but the truth is that Thomas would excel, regardless of whether he had a family or not. He wrestles between holding true to his values and morals and doing what works to accomplish a goal. He often secretly backs humanitarian projects to help him deal with this dichotomy in his life.

Thomas’s cognitive preferences are those of an ENTJ and while not all ENTJs are exactly like Thomas they do all have certain characteristics.

  1. ENTJs are efficient.
  2. ENTJs look at the bigger picture but focus in on areas to strengthen or improve.
  3. ENTJs move up any hierarchy rapidly.
  4. ENTJs are systematic.
  5. ENTJs do what works.
  6. ENTJs see what needs to be done and move to do it.
  7. ENTJs may overlook how their choices impact the lives of others, but they want to do something that is beneficial.

Extraverted Sensing Preference Recaps

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SPs or extraverted sensors are people whose cognitive preferences causes them to naturally be more in the moment than the rest of us. They don’t have to try to be in the moment, they just are in the moment. They are in-tune with their physical environment and are more at home in it. They are all free-spirited and original.


Se-in the hero position guarantees that they are involved and immersed in the moment. They are aware of the experiences of others, what others are doing.

Ti-in the parent position means that ESTPs are analytical, thinking on their feet, in the moment. They’re practical and pragmatic. They care less about how things “should” be done and more about, “what works.”

Fe-in the child position means they have a pure awareness of the values of others and a childlike concern about the well-being and feelings of others.

Ni-in the aspirational position means that ESTPs are uncertain about their future and if their plans will work. In some ways it’s a self-sabotage button that turns them into procrastinators, quick to begin a project but uncertain about finishing. However, they can and usually do overcome this if those around them exhibit patience and faith in their abilities. They need freedom to chose their own future because they are uncertain of what they want.


Ti-in the hero position causes ISTPs to be logic at its finest. Every piece of data or information that comes to an ISTP is immediately weighted against an internal framework built upon what is “true.” It also means they do not care what others think unless others can prove their thoughts using indisputable evidence from someone that the ISTP respects.

Se-in the parent position means that ISTPs are responsible with their immediate physical environment. They are highly attuned to what’s going on around them at all times and because of the hero Si they literally excel, above all others, at thinking on their feet. The Ti-Se combo also makes both ISTPs and ESTPs extremely gifted with the mechanical and tactical.

Ni-in the child position means that ISTPs have a childlike clear picture of what they want in any given moment and they often have no clue what anyone else wants. It also means that they can foresee and react to what’s happening to them in any given situation.

Fe-in the aspiring position means that the ISTP cares about how others feel even if they are the ones that cause the bad feelings. They need to know that you value them because they doubt that anyone does.



Se-in the hero position means the ESFP is all about providing an experiment in the moment. They are aware of their physical environment and are usually, like all SPs, physically coordinated and appreciate beauty. They tend to be fantastic entertainers and are often (like the ISFP) considered physically attractive.

Fi-in the parent position means that the ESFP is aware of what they value and will be true to themselves. It also means that Fe is in the critic position and may make them critical of the values of others which might be different from their own.

Te-in the child position gives them a pure measure of control that others may find surprising. The ESFP is often intelligent, articulate and controlled in their speech.

Ni-in the aspirational position means that the ESFPs aspire to know the right path and may verbally give advice or wish to be seen as wise counselors. Ni in this position means that ESFPs may feel they have the answers to the problems of others.  This is the function  where their ego longs to be fed. ESFPs want to be told they are wise, because they doubt that they truly are.


Fi-in the hero function means that ISFPs are true to their own values and feelings.

Se-in the parent function means that ISFPs are physically co-ordinated, quick to catch on to mechanical, tactical or physical things and are often attuned to physical beauty, knowing how to adorn themselves. They have a kinetic intelligence as all SPs do.

Ni-in the child position means that the ISFPs have a childlike clear picture of what they want in any given moment and they often have no clue what anyone else wants. It also means that they can foresee and react to what’s happening to them in any given situation.

Te-in the aspirational function means that ISFPs long to grasp the standardized ways of doing things yet struggle to do so because Fi makes them fiercely staunch in their own values. They want to be more aware of reason and what people think. As they mature, this can become a reality, but for many it remains a longtime struggle.





Introverted Sensing Preferences Recap

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In an effort to ensure that I cover all of the basis, before I move into the Intuitive Types, I’d like to do a couple of posts just recapping or highlight the sensors. Today I highlight the SJs.

SJs are people with cognitive preferences that cause them to focus on such things as comfort, safety, dependability, tradition, structure and doing what they perceive to be “right” or the accepted way of doing things.

SJs are responsible for keeping family traditions alive, for keeping order in society and for maintaining stability. They are the anchors of the human race. SJs, the world truly NEEDS you!

Here are the SJ cognitive preferences:

ESTJ-are hard-working, responsible, efficient people who have a natural talent for overseeing.

Te-hero means that ESTJs are aware of the proper way of doing things, efficient and structured.

Si-parent means they are responsible, dependable, safety-focused and will ensure comfort or a personally pleasing sensory experience. They are collectors of data in some instances. For example, an ESTJ who is concerned with a health issue will collect loads of information on that issue.

Ne-in the child position means they have a witty cooky streak that shows up in childlike playfulness at times.

Fi-in the aspirational or inferior position means they know their values but may be unaware of the values of others, believing that what they value is universally what others should also value.

ISTJ-are careful, thorough, conscientious, careful and usually filled with knowledge. 

Si-hero means that ISTJs are well aware of what brings comfort and familiarity is comforting to them. It also means they are collectors of information, data and sometimes, “stuff.”

Te-parent means that ISTJs are responsible to do things the way they “should be done” and that they look to the experts in whatever field of interest they have. ISTJs always have a systematic way of doing things.

Fi-in the child position means that the ISTJ has a childlike pure awareness of what they believe and value. However, they may be completely unaware of societal norms and values.

Ne-in the aspiring position means that the ISTJ has an off-beat sense of humor and can be surprisingly witty at times and inventive.

ESFJ–they provide and ensure that the physical needs of others are met. They seek to please those around them and usually work hard and are altruistic. 

Fe-in the hero position means that ESFJs are keenly aware of what those around them value.

Si-in the parent positions means that ESFJs will seek to maintain comfort in social situations and in the family.

Ne-in the child position means that they have a pure desire to give others what they want.

Ti-in this position means that they are aware of what they think but not of what others think. It also means that they MUST be listened to.

ISFJ-kind-hearted, care-taking, loving, gentle individuals who need family structure and someone or some thing to take care of.

Si-in the hero position means that ISFJs recall the past, collect data and seek comfort.

Fe-in the parent position means that ISFJs are aware of what others value and desire to uphold those values. That’s why family image is so important to them.

Ti-in the child position means they have a pure, child-like ability to analyze a thing to its basic core.

Ne-in the aspiration position means that they anticipate what others are wanting or what their intentions are. It also means that they may have some uncanny insights (sometimes dead on accurate and sometimes just accusing) into what others are intending to do.




Meet Sarah, an ISTP

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ISTP’s have the following cognitive preferences:

Hero–Thinking introverted in the hero position–they are, above all, logical and analytical. This means Thinking extraverted is the nemesis and if you want an ISTP to listen to your ideas, you’d better back them up with indisputable facts. 
Parent–Sensing that is extraverted–their responsibility lies in the experiences of what’s going on around them. What is everybody doing? What is everybody experiencing in the immediate reality? This means that Introverted Sensing is the critic. 
Child–Feeling extraverted is their child and in its innocence, it cares how things affect others and how others feel. This means that Feeling Introverted is the trickster and the ISTP may not be aware of their own core values, ethics or morals at times. 
Aspiring–Intuition that is introverted anticipates the immediate future, like a fighter’s next move, but because it is in the inferior or apsiring position, it does not do as well with long-range planning.  This means that Intuition Extraverted is their demon function.

By day Sarah works at the county jail.

In the evenings she teaches martial arts and women’s self-defense classes. She thinks tactically. Her purse isn’t just a purse, it’s an ETA-lined military grade survival kit. She carries a pocket knife and a pistol in there along with her compact, lipstick, brush, checkbook, cellphone and credit card.

She scopes out a building the moment she enters, looking for places where shooters or muggers might attack. When she visits a home, she can’t stop seeing potential entry points for thieves, rapists and serial killers. She thinks on her feet and is constantly in protectant mode. Sarah has a natural-born ability to do things physically. She and her training partners are always thinking up new ways to stop would-be attackers and then they try them out on each other. Sarah has had her jaw broken, her rib broken and has been knocked out on more than one occasion.

She isn’t opposed to crude humor and her husband often reminds her that there are children present. However, she tends to be quiet much of the time, not because she’s shy but just because if she deems a conversation too stupid or pointless, she simply won’t engage in it. She really doesn’t care what other people think unless they can back it up with a mountain of relative research from people that she respects. She has a massive internal framework of information and understanding about the things she’s interested in and she applies it to the present situation.

Sarah’s husband is sometimes opposed to her extreme physical and analytical nature, but he knew when he married her that she was fiercely independent and that she was a tactician. On their fourth date, they had a flat and she was the one who changed it. She also told him to take all that crap off his key chain before he messed up his ignition switch.

Sarah isn’t the traditional motherly type by any means. She will gladly eat Thanksgiving dinner at her sister’s house but if the family counted on her, she’d order carry-out. She sees what needs to be done and she does it in the most efficient way possible.  Unlike her SJ sister, she forgets anniversaries and birthdays. She doesn’t mean to and if she is reminded then she will come through. She cares deeply about the well being of her family and will fight fiercely to protect them, at least physically. She has a pure instinct about her and can survive just about any situation. Sarah is a real life Mcgyver in a lot of ways. Steve McGarrett from Hawaii Five 0 is her absolute favorite television character. He reminds her of herself. She also likes Agent Mae from Agents of Shield.

Sarah doesn’t have many women friends because she doesn’t usually fit in with them. In her mind, high heels are made to be used as weapons. Hairspray can double as mace and face powder can be used to lift fingerprints.

However, she loves the auto parts store and visits the hardware store weekly. Sarah isn’t intentionally critical of other people but the truth is that she can literally think on her feet and anticipate an opponent’s next move. Sarah can think and move her way out of anything. However, long range planning is not really her thing and neither is having to back up, slow down or re-explain a concept. She sometimes thinks that people who can’t catch on to what she is showing them are slow or just plain stupid, no matter how many degrees they have or what they’re in.

Not only is she good at thinking on her feet, but there hasn’t been an engine built that she can’t take apart and put back together again. Sarah loves to work on vehicles and she loves to work with her hands. When she isn’t training, working out or at the jail, she’s in the back yard under a shade tree fixing someone’s vehicle.

Sarah’s cognitive preferences are those of an ISTP.

While Sara is not typical of ALL ISTPs, all ISTPs do have some things in common.

  1. ISTPs live in the moment.
  2. ISTPs are tacticians.
  3. ISTPs foresee physical challenges in the immediate future and react. That’s why they make awesome fighters and martial artists.
  4. ISTPs are mechanically and/or electronically inclined.
  5. ISTPs tend to be daredevils to some degree. They will try out the tactics that they come up with.
  6. ISTPs are not bound by tradition and almost always think outside the box.
  7. ISTPs don’t care what others think and will write you off as stupid if you waste their time on prattle. Ideas have to be backed up by real world evidence by people they respect in fields that they care about.


Meet Johnny, an ESTP

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Johnny loves crude humor, The Sons of Anarchy and hosting family and friends barbeques. He enjoys reality television shows that focus on fixing up old cars or remodeling dilapidated homes. He doesn’t have time for theoretical discussions unless he can use them in his real life.

Johnny is well-liked by many people. He runs a local garage and his friends stop regularly to shoot the breeze with him. He has been a champion in the county’s demolition derby for four years straight and so the “guys” respect his skill and ingenuity. He’s been known to weld parts together that don’t normally go together. He doesn’t care so much for the way things have always been done and considers some traditions to be just plain stupid. He puts things together in unique ways and is often proud of his accomplishments, posting pictures of his renovated cars on facebook where he also posts off-color jokes and sarcastic memes.

He will push the boundaries with his humor and remarks. When Johnny throws a party, he wants everything to be just right. He wants his guests to enjoy the food and have a great time. He may overspend in his quest to have people love the moment they’re in. This is his way of giving and helping. Johnny mans the grill. He is really great at starting projects and focusing on them in the moment.  If he doesn’t finish a project quickly, he may never return to it and deep inside he knows this. That’s why when something is really important to him or the people that he loves, he needs his tunnel vision to complete it.

John is blunt, bold and direct in his speech. He notices physical changes in his environment before almost everyone around him and is quick to point them out. He also notices when things need to be changed and doesn’t hesitate to change them. He has a vast network of contacts and social connections that he calls upon whenever he needs an expert in just about any field.

He doesn’t like to express his feelings in front of others and struggles with anger. His blunt honesty has cost him a few friendships but he reasons that they can’t handle the truth. He moves at his own pace and detests being rushed and he doesn’t like to backtrack, slow down or explain things when others are too slow to catch on. That’s because having to focus on a detail for a long time is frustrating to him. Johnny has been known to boldly go where no man has gone before on more than one occasion which didn’t end well for him and now, that he is older, he procrastinates because he can’t predict an outcome and doesn’t really know what it is that he wants the results to be. His friends and family say that he can be unstructured, always runs late or arrives early, ignoring other people’s time frames. They say that can’t see the forest for the trees sometimes.

Johnny does have an awareness of social values and wants very much to give others a good experience. He can be extremely unselfish and give unexpected gifts to those he cares about. Johnny values his independence and not being micromanaged. He is self-sufficient and expects the same from others.

John’s cognitive preferences are those of an ESTP. 

While every ESTP is different and John is unique, all ESTPs do have some things in common:

  1. ESTPs live in the moment.
  2. ESTPs care about the experiences of others.
  3. ESTPs are analytical and can think on their feet.
  4. ESTPs have a childlike desire to make people feel good.
  5. ESTPs are protective of their families and those that they value.
  6. ESTPs think outside the box.
  7. ESTPs are pragmatic, always looking for what works.












Meet Dave, an ISFP

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When Dave plays guitar and sings, women throw things at him, like bras with phone numbers on them.

Dave is charming with a beautiful smile and an off-beat sense of humor.

On the upside Dave’s charm, talent and skills have opened doors for him. He’s been a stunt man (for a couple of years), a rodeo clown (for three months), a ranch hand, a logger, a dock hand, a bar performer, a mechanic (he can fix anything), a tattoo artist, a wood worker, and an actor; he did a stint on a local television program, all before he turned 30, which is his current age, but through it all he has loved his music and has been in 7 different bands, playing concerts most weekends.

On the downside, Dave’s music and passion cost him his marriage, three marriages actually.

He tends to live in the moment and when women threw themselves at him after concerts, he’d give in. He reasons that life on the road sort of does that to a passionate man. None of his wives agreed. Nor did they agree with being kicked out of their homes when Dave bought a knew sound system or guitar and let the rent go unpaid or when he quit one job after another and threatened to mutilate the bosses and various people that he worked with for “putting him down.”

When Dave’s first wife left him, he completely shut down and closed himself off from everyone who tried to help him. Then he came back, bouncing from woman to woman for the next two years.

He has a vivid imagination and is highly creative, writing amazing music and lyrics. He pours his values and emotions into his creations and this is alluring to listeners. He is a spiritual man of sorts, but even in that, he goes his own way. He has tried Buddhism, Hinduism, Satanism, Christianity and now he is into Taoism. He dyes his hair various colors, depending on his mood at the time, has piercings in ears, nose, lip and eyebrows. He dresses in black and says that he is making a statement by his fashion choices. His music, his clothes and everything about him tells the world that he has his own set of values and he will, above all else, be true to those values.

Dave tends to be competitive and feels he must be victorious in the moment. Dave would never back down from a fight. He says he doesn’t start them but he won’t back away from them either.

While he is insanely charming, especially on stage, his self-esteem fluctuates from seemingly cocky and over confident to self-loathing and withdrawal. He can be kind and unselfish but he can also be cruel, harsh and completely self-centered. Dave’s mother, who posts only positive things about him on her facebook page, and tells everybody that he is a good boy,  fears that one day he will lose his temper or do something in the heat of the moment that will land him in prison or that he might get into drugs and overdose. Dave’s cognitive preferences are those of an ISFP.

*This is NOT a typical ISFP but of course an over the top representation. Still ISFPs do have core values that are extreme in Dave. However, in a more stable individual they would appear quite different and more balanced. ISFPs have these things in common:

  1. They are fiercely independent.
  2. They struggle with temper, either internally are quietly stubborn or will physically engage in a fight when insulted.
  3. They take insults very personally, sometimes, even unintended ones.
  4. They are good with physical and/or mechanical things.
  5. They can be charming.
  6. They can be generous and kind.
  7. They are present-focused.


Meet Kimberly, an ESFP

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Kimberly is a chef. She truly enjoys her work and tries every recipe personally before she serves it to her customers. She enjoys textile art as a hobby and has a poodle name Floopy.

She knows what she values and it is these personal values and interests that motivate her.

She detests long-term projects and likes to do things that bring immediate satisfaction to people, like good cooking, and putting together great outfits. She once worked as a school secretary but the stringent rules made her feel stressed. She likes a job with flexibility and being a chef gives her that and allows her room to be creative.

Kimberly is so much fun at parties and her friends are always inviting her. She is a fountain of jokes and entertainment and makes others feel good to be in her presence which makes her feel good, too. She wears bold clothing (and sometimes revealing) that many others could not get away with. She has a killer singing voice and can sing karaoke better than any of the friends. She is good at making plans but disdains strict rules. She wants the freedom to be herself and on her dating profile, she states that as a must. She is a master of selfies.

She is definitely a girl who sees the glass as half-full. She doesn’t like conflict and doesn’t like to be restricted by regulations. She has a creative, artistic streak, especially when it comes to practical things. She loves good food, good company and good times. Kids love her. Animals love her. She’s a fun, easy-going, out-going girl most of the time. Kimberly’s cognitive preferences are those of an ESFP.

***Kimberly is just one example of the ESFP blueprints. However ESFPs do have some basic things in common, regardless of the lives built upon those blueprints.

  1. ESFPs like to give tangible experiences to others.
  2. ESFPs are motivated by personal interests and know what their personal values are.
  3. ESFPs are more organized and smarter than they appear.
  4. ESFPs may change their minds and/or directions often.
  5. ESFPs are good at initiating or starting things but may struggle with completion.
  6. ESFPs have an uncanny ability to be in the moment and tend to be good at “physical” or mechanical things. For example, an ESFP might be a natural-born dancer or have a natural talent for musical and/or stage performances.
  7. ESFPs care what others think.


Meet Allie, an ESFJ

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Allie attends church nearly every Sunday.

She holds a Master’s Degree in Human Services and prides herself in caring for others. She likes to keep things moving forward and she never wants for friends. In fact, she has a whole posse that she takes shopping with her because she is afraid that she will buy something ugly and look stupid in front of her friends at work.

She hosts Thanksgiving and Christmas dinners for her family every year and her home looks like it should be featured on the front of a Southern Living magazine. She goes all out and keeps her Christmas decorations up to date and in vogue.

At work she is often the spokeswoman in meetings and is critical of anyone who is socially awkward, has bad hair, is too fat, or wears out-of-style clothing. She sometimes spends more than she intended to on clothing and often buys things only to later discover that she doesn’t even like them. In fact, she has closets filled with things with tags still on them. She doesn’t always know what she wants and so she buys things that are popular among people she respects and likes.

Allie puts in long hours and works as a volunteer for Relay for Life because she is a cancer survivor and she wants to help others survive, too. She cries during sad movies and is better at knowing what other people want than what she wants for herself. In fact, she feels happiest when she is making the people she loves happy. Her first marriage was bad as her husband was verbally and emotionally abusive toward her. Now, in her second marriage, she is extremely happy because her husband, an easy-going woodworker, is completely opposite of her previous partner. He is funny, quirky and kind to her, plus she always knows what he wants, he listens to her, doesn’t criticize her for having too much stuff and values her ideas and input and this makes her happy.

There is a woman at work who once devalued Allie and made her feel stupid. Allie wanted the woman gone, so she began highlighting the woman’s short-comings in front of others. Eventually, the woman was deemed lazy and incompetent by the administers at the center and she was fired. Allie received her job, which was a promotion for her. Allie rarely goes into her dark side but dismissing her idea as stupid made this woman Allie’s mortal enemy. Allie must be praised for her hard work. If she receives praise and recognition, she will sacrifice to the ends of the earth to make others feel happy.

Allie’s cognitive preferences are those of an ESFJ.

All ESFJs have these things in common:

  1. They honor tradition and the values of their circle.
  2. They want to do the “right thing.”
  3. They are past focused and compare the present to past experiences.
  4. They care about what you want.
  5. They must have someone listen to them.
  6. They like familiarity and comfort.
  7. They are thoughtful, generous and usually altruistic.

Meet Mark, an ESTJ

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Note to my family: although I have a brother named Mark, this is NOT him. 

Mark is a jailer.

He is also objective, organized, punctual, practical and more than a little on the blunt side, but after all, he says he works with criminals, so why should he be all cuddles and rainbows?

His wife says he never turns it off and sometimes forgets that the kid on the bike across the street is not a hoodlum, just a kid on a bike. She sometimes thinks he is insensitive to her feelings and the feelings of their children. But then he goes and does something totally sacrificial to provide them with a nicer car or a better school. She knows that he shows his love in practical ways. He has been married to the same woman for twenty years and plans to be with her until they both die. He endured extreme poverty as a child, often going to school hungry and tired (from a lack of sleep due to his parents fighting in the next room) and the early death of his mother when he was eighteen. His father, an alcoholic, abandoned Mark and his three younger siblings.

However, through his fortitude and determination, he went to work at several part-time jobs and earned enough money to keep his siblings together and put them all through high school.

Mark does his best to follow proper protocol. He works out at the gym several times a week and eats healthy. He is fit and trim and an excellent dresser. He always looks sharp in his uniform and even in his lounge clothes.

Mark doesn’t throw things away. He washes them, organizes them and donates them to a facility for the elderly or to the children’s hospital where he knows his hard-earned purchases will be treated with respect and receive a new purpose.

He appreciates people who take pride in the order and cleanliness of their workspace, home and personal appearance.

He doesn’t like long theoretical discussions and wants you to get to the point when speaking to him. If you take too long to respond, he will consider you a “slow thinker.”

He once gave a bike that his son outgrew to a cousin’s child. The next time he went to visit, he saw the bike had been left out in the rain. He has decided not to give that cousin’s child anything else. Another time he gave a coffee pot to his niece. When he went to visit again, he noticed the coffee pot hadn’t been cleaned very well. He decided she wasn’t responsible enough to receive any more gifts from him. He sometimes hurts his wife’s feelings when she is getting dressed to go out because he will say, “That dress makes you look fat. You shouldn’t wear it.”

He disdains fat people and he worries that he might have Jewish ancestry because he read a document detailing all the diseases that Jews can inherit. He has been researching his ancestry feverishly ever since and is concerned because he found a great-great-uncle who died from throat cancer.

He enjoys taking random drives on the weekend along well-established routes and occasionally surprises his wife and kids with a weekend camping trip. Mark isn’t overly emotional and worries that there may be something wrong with his son because he cried at school when other kids accused him of lying. Mark worries that his daughter may be ADHD, even though the doctor said she wasn’t. He’s looked the symptoms up online and he is sure he knows more than the doctor because that doctor is too young to know much anyway.

Sometimes, he hires a babysitter and takes his wife out on the four-wheeler out for a spin, making a day of it and stopping at places that look nice and clean to eat. Mark does things at his own pace and doesn’t like people who slow him down by being late nor does he like to be rushed. Mark’s cognitive presences are those of an ESTJ.

***Mark is only ONE example of the ESTJ type. ESTJs can present themselves in many different ways and each will have their own unique lives and habits, but all ESTJs do have some things in common that are fundamental to the ESTJ cognitive preference.

  1. ESTJs are orderly, punctual, dependable, responsible and practical.
  2. ESTJs are objective and make decisions based on what seems practical. They may not consider your feelings at all when making a choice but will always consider what you think. They care about what you THINK.
  3. ESTJs are safety focused and take comfort responsibly. They don’t want others to make stupid mistakes because they don’t want to have to rescue them from the consequences later on, which is what often happens.
  4. ESTJs know what they value and assume that others value the same thing.
  5. ESTJs want you to think of them as good people. They show love through acts of service and/or gifts. That is why in the example above, Mark was upset by the bike being left in the rain. It was a devaluation of his values.
  6. ESTJs are resilient, hard-workers who want to do the things they have been taught are right.
  7. ESTJs are opinionated and at times, can be a bit elitist.

Meet Tom, an ISTJ

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Tom is an accountant.

He likes his job, because he always knows what is expected of him and he has a set way of accomplishing everything. He feels good when he has an itinerary to follow.

He gets to work every day at 7:05 a.m., exactly twenty-five minutes before he is required to be there. He always leaves home early in case of something unexpected, like a flat tire or icy roads. Every Monday he wears his red tie and every Thursday he wears his gray jacket.

He eats two sausages, one egg and two pieces of toast with a cup of coffee for breakfast every morning and he has done his entire adult life.

He always puts his left shoe on first. At lunch he either goes to the cafeteria across the street or to the fast food place two blocks away. He takes a break at 9 every day and goes to the break room and talks to his friend, Joe, for fifteen minutes. He enjoys talking about UFO sightings, comic books and superhero movies. His co-workers know him for his corny jokes and honest mannerism. Tom is practically incapable of deception or lies.

His boss is talking about retiring and Tom is apprehensive. He has seen the new guy but he is suspicious of him. He thinks this new guy is the type that will change things just to shake people up and that disturbs him. He questions the incoming boss’s intentions and worries that he might be like a pastor he once had who looked similar to him and had similar mannerisms. That pastor embarrassed Tom in front of the entire congregation, so Tom quit going to church. Tom does not like public displays of emotions, especially his own.

When at home, he likes to watch his favorite television shows, sometimes, he even watches reruns of the best episodes. Every night he calls his girlfriend around 7. He also likes a nightly bowl of popcorn and to read for about an hour before he goes to bed. Tom likes to keep things moving forward, doesn’t like sudden plan changes and needs to know what’s next on the agenda. Tom’s cognitive preferences are those of an ISTJ.

***Tom is just one example of the many faces an ISTJ may take. Although no two ISTJs are the same, they all have certain things in common.

  1. They are safety and comfort focused. They prefer the familiar over the changing and unexpected.
  2. They have a systematic way for doing everything and are responsible to do what they should do. They rely on structure and are responsible. If an ISTJ borrows something from you, they will return it in good condition and if you borrow something from them, they expect the same.
  3. They are collectors of information and may accumulate vast libraries on whatever subject they are interested in. They may also collect items, such as comic books, CDs, old records, magazines, etc. Being surrounded by the familiar brings them comfort.
  4. They have a childlike adherence to their personal values and may be unaware of the values of others. They may follow you to the bathroom door dispensing information about something that is important to them, believing that you are also excited about it.
  5. They have a hard time recovering from wrongs done to them and have a hard time understanding why people don’t just do what they say and keep their promises. They like life-long partners and as little change as possible.
  6. They will go outside their comfort zones for those that they love, but will likely complain the entire time they’re doing it.
  7. They fret and worry over the intentions of others.

Meet Kallie, the ISFJ

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Kallie’s a kindergarten teacher.

She’s neat.

She’s organized.

She’s punctual.

She dresses conservatively, attractively and responsibly. Her classroom is filled with colorful totes, all labeled and periodically dusted. The totes contain things that she has used in past lessons and may use again in future ones.

She eats lunch with her coworkers and enjoys talking about her children, her husband, her church and her students. She has a shoe collection at home and loves cute shoes and secretly enjoys it when her co-workers comment on how much they like her shoes or her clothes or her hair. She has a quiet demeanor and a soft-spoken gentleness about her yet she will stand up for her family or her students in a heartbeat.

She loves Thanksgiving and Christmas and enjoys reliving special moments from her childhood and the childhood of her children.

Sometimes, she worries about her students at night and prays for them before she goes to sleep. She can be counted on to do things right, to do her job well and to keep accurate records. She wants to do the things that she was taught that she should do in order to be a good person.

She gets nervous when people start changing things without a real explanation as to why they’re changing.  Sudden changes make her uneasy and uncertainties make her feel overwhelmed and nervous. She is aware of how other people feel and of their values. She doesn’t want to hurt people’s feelings unless she has to, but if you mess with her loved ones, or fail to come through on your end of a deal (meaning that after she has done so much for you and not asked anything in return, she expects you to live according to her standards), she may go into panic mode and start talking fast, crying and accusing you of whatever she has imagined you’ve done. Her facebook posts consists of cute pictures of her children doing things, like playing with a pony or feeding the horse or in their adorable Halloween costumes, of her husband (whom she will often praise) and her dog. It’s important to her that she have a great family and that other people think she has a great family.  Other peoples’ feelings and perceptions matter to her, even if their thoughts or personal experiences don’t. She cares more about how you feel than what you think or what you’ve done. Don’t tell her what you think. Tell her how you “feel” and you will reach Kallie’s heart. She is the true embodiment of not caring what you know until she knows that you care.  Kallie’s cognitive preferences are those of an ISFJ.

If Kallie has a dark side it would be that she could become irrational and accuse someone of bad intentions. She could carry this to the extreme, becoming neurotic and lashing out verbally or by doing something out of character for her. She may hold covert contracts and collect on them as a means of manipulation if she feels her version of the ideal relationship or family is slipping. However, Kallie is a stable and mature ISFJ, who has a handle on her shadow functions most of the time.  She is witty, cute, nurturing and inventive. She prides herself in having common sense. Kallie is respected in her community, and even though she often feels alone, is widely liked.

***Keep in mind that the cognitive types are merely blueprints and Kallie is only one representation of millions of variations of the ISFJ type. However, there are certain “Core” elements that all ISFJs share in common. They are:

  1. All ISFJs are safety and comfort focused.
  2. They all compare the present to past similarities and are quick to spot discrepancies.
  3. They are responsible to uphold the values of those within their circle. They care deeply about tradition and time-honored values, about family and legacy. They worry about being good people and don’t want to hurt other people’s feelings (at least not normally.) However, on a negative note, they can care more about the image of a perfect family than they do about the actual people in the family.
  4. They are structured.
  5. They often provide subtext when communicating, leading up to their actual point, or they may simply give your information and let you derive your own “points” from it.
  6. They want to do the the right thing, play by the rules.
  7. They tend to be kind most of the time and aware of how they come across.